I am not a parent and not familiar with Dr. Becky but I went to her website and all of her illustrations feature moms and only moms which tells me everything I need to know about this woman’s philosophy, yikes!
I FORGOT about playgrounds being closed, what a grim time. I remember wiping out a swing for an 18-month old with a Clorox wipe and taking a picture of her swinging and then wondering if I was going to have to delete it later because it was my fault she died of Covid.
Also, respect to Dr. Becky for the hustle, but $84 for three months of membership to a parenting website is insane.
Oh my GOD she has a PAID MEMBERSHIP to her WEBSITE I had not noticed this. Wow. Yes I would prefer for her to get that money while also leaving us alone, somehow.
I had the same thought re: a video I posted to insta of the kids climbing on a big rock next to the playground. "Can we touch this rock?" :(
Christ. Not to sound old but the pressure. the fucking pressure!!! I'm not a parent. I don't have children. I don't know if I want them. so that probably renders everything I'm saying invalid. and that's fair. but the one thing I heard once was if you're TRYING. then you're probably doing okay. if you're just TRYING. not trying perfectly. just trying. and as the eldest daughter of an immigrant parent and the daughter of a psychotherapist- where I felt kind of like a trial and error child- I still love my family and have good relationships with them. bc I grew up and realized they were trying like everyone else. there's no fucking scorecard like this hideous little monster becky seems to tally up.
OMG, my kids are old (and nicely fucked up, thank you very much) but this just sent me into a panic! I like parenting advice like "buy more vodka" and "yelling burns calories". Also invariably suspicious of advisors who look like Barbie. I firmly believe that anyone who has ever called themselves the worst mother ever (hand raise) is doing a perfectly fine job.
I also love Susie! I feel like she’s one of the very few “parenting experts” who doesn’t make me feel vaguely like crap. I wonder if that’s WHY she gets less hype than some of the others. Like if we’re also secretly trying to signal to each other “does this person resonate with YOU, which is more proof that I am the worst mother ever?”
Yes! I also come away from Susie's posts with achievable ambitions, like "maybe I can *also* have a jar of pom poms that my kids independently amuse themselves with while I am chilling out and not crawling up their asses" vs. the anti-high of engaging with Dr. Becky's content, which feels more like "I must do everything in my power to ensure my child never brings me up in therapy"
Just here to say that 90% of the time I’m like, “This is just the normal amount of childhood trauma I’m inflicting, right?” And then I get so damned exhausted, the “you got this, mama” makes me burst into tears. What a wild fucking roller coaster. But apart from that, I steer clear of all parenting-advice-givers. Like life coaches (no offense if your friends are life coaches, I have plenty… I mean, it’s DC), I generally find people telling me that if I put in more effort at something that I could unlock some secrets pretty fucking annoying.
I am not a parent and not familiar with Dr. Becky but I went to her website and all of her illustrations feature moms and only moms which tells me everything I need to know about this woman’s philosophy, yikes!
Lol holy shit!! Gonna circulate a petition for her to put on a mustache and glasses and start harassing men and ONLY MEN
I FORGOT about playgrounds being closed, what a grim time. I remember wiping out a swing for an 18-month old with a Clorox wipe and taking a picture of her swinging and then wondering if I was going to have to delete it later because it was my fault she died of Covid.
Also, respect to Dr. Becky for the hustle, but $84 for three months of membership to a parenting website is insane.
Oh my GOD she has a PAID MEMBERSHIP to her WEBSITE I had not noticed this. Wow. Yes I would prefer for her to get that money while also leaving us alone, somehow.
I had the same thought re: a video I posted to insta of the kids climbing on a big rock next to the playground. "Can we touch this rock?" :(
Christ. Not to sound old but the pressure. the fucking pressure!!! I'm not a parent. I don't have children. I don't know if I want them. so that probably renders everything I'm saying invalid. and that's fair. but the one thing I heard once was if you're TRYING. then you're probably doing okay. if you're just TRYING. not trying perfectly. just trying. and as the eldest daughter of an immigrant parent and the daughter of a psychotherapist- where I felt kind of like a trial and error child- I still love my family and have good relationships with them. bc I grew up and realized they were trying like everyone else. there's no fucking scorecard like this hideous little monster becky seems to tally up.
thanks for letting us into your brain <3
OMG, my kids are old (and nicely fucked up, thank you very much) but this just sent me into a panic! I like parenting advice like "buy more vodka" and "yelling burns calories". Also invariably suspicious of advisors who look like Barbie. I firmly believe that anyone who has ever called themselves the worst mother ever (hand raise) is doing a perfectly fine job.
I also love Susie! I feel like she’s one of the very few “parenting experts” who doesn’t make me feel vaguely like crap. I wonder if that’s WHY she gets less hype than some of the others. Like if we’re also secretly trying to signal to each other “does this person resonate with YOU, which is more proof that I am the worst mother ever?”
Yes! I also come away from Susie's posts with achievable ambitions, like "maybe I can *also* have a jar of pom poms that my kids independently amuse themselves with while I am chilling out and not crawling up their asses" vs. the anti-high of engaging with Dr. Becky's content, which feels more like "I must do everything in my power to ensure my child never brings me up in therapy"
Just here to say that 90% of the time I’m like, “This is just the normal amount of childhood trauma I’m inflicting, right?” And then I get so damned exhausted, the “you got this, mama” makes me burst into tears. What a wild fucking roller coaster. But apart from that, I steer clear of all parenting-advice-givers. Like life coaches (no offense if your friends are life coaches, I have plenty… I mean, it’s DC), I generally find people telling me that if I put in more effort at something that I could unlock some secrets pretty fucking annoying.